Thursday, 30 May 2013

In Love with - The Great Gatsby

  I had no clue what this movie 'The Great Gatsby' was all about until I impulsively decided to watch it yesterday and am glad I did that before its withdrawn from theatres in the city! Surely one of the unmatched Classics of this century, it revolves around the riches, power, true love, friendship, and betrayal and yes also the well known open secret that history is not always written in its true factual sense.
      The character of Nick Carraway, in so many ways reverberates my thoughts... seeing things as  I have seen...thinking as I have thought....  pondering about the variety of lives on this planet, peoples’ fickle minded souls,   the changing times and changing faces and much more...and well ofcourse one more similarity between him and me; that is “Writing”-  to find solace. I could so entirely relate with him and the gist of this wonderfully portrayed story!
      Initiating with the scenes of mystery the movie slowly raises the curtain into the real story,beginning from the world of affluent people, digging into their dark secrets of life, moving to Gatsby’s unfulfilled dream of achieving his love, the insensitive Rich & Famous and the catastrophic end as a consequence of Gatsby’s belief in the Lady he loved.
I could see myself in Nick Carraways character, watching the lives of the influential people from a very close quarters, knowing a lot of inside things but keeping to himself the truth. His strong willpower and firm conscience which doesn’t get carried away instead of being in the company of “the bunch of rots” reminds me of my similar experiences in life. And yes, I did become vulnerable and shaky on occasion but thanks to the strength lent to me by Vipassana meditation, I thankfully realised in time and retreated to my pole of Vipassana knowing that the glitterati is not worth at all.
     Coming back to the movie, Mr Gatsby - a Man of immense potentials who could truly achieve the Sun if he wanted to, gave up all for just his imagination of ‘Love’...  for the Woman who would never care enough to turn back and appreciate the sacrifice he was willing to make for her, the woman who  ran away to save her skin without even kissing last goodbye ! It so truly speaks about people who are turned on by the power, status, riches, comforts and their greed for every sensual gratification loose out upon the genuine hearted loyal people who love and care for them to the extent of exchanging their lives and comfort for happiness of their beloved. Like Daisy, such fickle minded people will never even realise what a crystal clear hearted person like Gatsby they have lost  for a selfcentered and wickedminded pretentious Mr Buchanan who could trade anyone.... even Myrtle for their self interests!
     What is saddening is that Gatsby’s pure love goes unrecognized even by the Lady for whom he toiled so much to be with. It stresses once more that your true emotions or feelings of love for a person is not under obligation to be appreciated by that person and it may just die with you in your heart.. just like Gatsby’s !  Maybe Love is just a mirage in one’s own mind... and ofcourse on the other hand this Movie also highlights the beautiful relationship of genuine friendship devoid of expectations shared by Gatsby and Nick
     Makes me wonder if a real life Mr Gatsby exists in this age ? doesn’t matter if he is not a prince... need not be ...only what matters is unceasing true love,a genuine character and a will to be with the one he loves.
     Everything in the movie seems larger than life, a life of grandiosity one could ever dream of but also clears the air about the buried secrets in the hearts of Rich and the Famous, the  devastating power of  the emotional drag, the opportunistic lover, the short memory of common people and their ungratefulness to a benefactor like Gatsby and the very faint and fortunate chances of having true friends like Nick Carraway.  Truly the world today is no different from the Times gone by... ages after ages human needs, tendencies,aspirations, emotions and desires remain the same... Jo daur kal tha woh aajbhi hai aur kal bhi rahega..hamesha!
     Leonardo surely played his time-tested trick of becoming a martyr of love very well, very much similar to his role in Titanic and Toby Maguire also has enacted his role of an empathising honest friend similar to his role in Spiderman extremely well and both are best at it! The most striking feature of this movie is the point it makes about stark realities of the Big Bad World unlike make-believe fantasy happy endings of Bollywood movies. After ages a movie could move me into tears , the last time was after watching Titanic...another Leonardo Di Caprio’s masterpiece ; the only difference between these two is that Jack dying for Rose was well worth but Gatsby dying for Daisy isn’t ! No wonder I am in love with The Great Gatsby.... both the character and the movie…


Dr Racchana D Fadia
MERAKI

Sunday, 19 May 2013

Bas Yunhi...

Zara Sambhalkar chal Ae Dil,
Ye Kaante bhari Duniya Bharose ke Kaabil nahi...
Jo Kadar Naa Jaane Imaan e Mohabbat ki,
Woh Tere Keemti Aansuon ke Kabil Nahi!

Bas Yunhi...

Rusvaa hai Dil Un Ummeedon se
Jo Kabhi Hamne Apnon se Ki...
Har Mod par Khudko Paaya Akela,
Shaayad,
Ye Akelapan hi Pehchaan Hai Mere "Apnon" Ki !
- Dr Racchana D Fadia
MERAKI

With Love...


World consistently continues to amaze me
The mysterious creation of God  continues to teach me!
With a wish to expand the horizons of my mind
And shed the feelings which make a person blind
Awaiting  for the moment of truth... unmasked & revealed
Hoping... All the pain and hurt will get healed and past... sealed!
In the vastness of oceans I wish to dive deep,
For pearls of wisdom which lie beneath
Passing through phases of life, mind understands well
HE guides those who have unquestioned faith and  patience eternal   
May every soul be enlightened about Life and Time and Love,
Running the Race of life, may they not miss those who truly care and love...

- Dr Racchana D Fadia
MERAKI

Thursday, 2 May 2013

All that Glitters is not Gold!

Mind sometimes encounters amusing experiences which sets the contemplation mode ON. Similar to what I experienced yesterday... three patients from an affluent background and suffering the same disease of minds... what is that?
I saw a son of filthy rich businessman in his early thirties, an upcoming Assistant Director and a daughter of a well known Bollywood celebrity... which mind disease was common in all of them? Apparently they all had flaws either in skin or body or looks which were quite natural to have usually... but all of them couldn’t accept a single shortcoming ...all of them wanted to look like the photoshopped models and celebrities  with six pack abs,  and flawless smooth milky white skin in magazines.  And Why? The reason was either because they grew up in such a looks conscious society or because their girlfriend or boyfriend pointed out small, common and natural imperfections and made them feel embarrassed, which made their minds restless.  The Assistant director was so hassled he didn’t mind going under the knife for getting rid of his problem!!!
At one point I thought of advising the Assistant Director on a personal note that if your girl loves you truly as a person she will accept you in totality, with all your imperfections because no matter how Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt looks she would know that even they are not perfect or beauty immortal....that if she calls out for help none of those handsomest hunks will come to her aid except the one who loves and truly cares for her....So whats the point in chasing fireflies and external charm which is ofcourse impermanent???  It will fade away in just a matter of few years... after all a human body goes through wear and tear as it ages.... It is gonna  become old, gonna smell and one day decay...  Being hygienic is most important but loosing selfworth because of minor imperfections is  eccentricism... But instead of advising him so,  I restricted myself to professionalism keeping my emotional mind at bay!
The matter of point here is that nowadays in the world of  media and globalisation, in the world of aesthetic procedures and surgeries, in the world of  photography and photoshopping, in the world of make up and glamour,  in the world of quick fixes and  and most importantly in the world of artificiality.... people have started having unrealistic expectations from their ownself or their partners’...  even pornography on internet has made people fantasize wrongly about what good sex means , having  unrealistic expectations of anatomical sizes and every act performed therein...Consequence? Either unhappy self or making their partners also burn in that fire of expectations lowering the self confidence and peace of mind because fantasies cannot be facts!
Is all  this trauma worth the energy of mind? Does only external appearance make the person superior  ? Its a different story that such people increase the probabilities of earning for Dermatologists and cosmetologists like me but having a quest to understand the purpose of life,   I was amazed to see all those patients on same day who were suffering mentally...  not happy about their individuality...  
I personally feel that you must shun the person who rates you for your minor outwardly features, because who knows that person will fall for another beautiful/handsome person when the time comes and leave you in the middle of nowhere? After all  temptations cant be controlled by weak minded souls! Overall,   Skin-deep Beauty will perish in time whereas a Beautiful mind will go on blooming and spreading fragrance of peace and happiness !!!

- Dr Racchana D Fadia
MERAKI