Thankyou so much for coming out with this topic and I loved your analogy of tap water 😂 ....Its indeed most important topic 💯 in which many of us have so many altered perception because of REEL life shown in bollywood movies/peer pressure etc without truly knowing the REAL life challenges that come by not identifying the reasons and talking before getting seriously involved, and this can be cause for too much stress later.
You gave so very important points to discuss before deciding to marry and I wish I could see this video much earlier in life, to have a shorter learning curve and higher bounce in this topic as well.
Apart from this, I also feel that giving relationship some time before committing is best, coz like the saying goes - Distance is a test for speed and Time is a test for character, in as much to truly understand whether the person shares the same values compatible to ours, whether they truly do what they say and truly say what they mean -congruence in thoughts words actions!....
And back here in India, one most important question I would also consider is How the person takes his/her Family, how he/she respects his/her own as well as our parents, how is his mental construct around his parents/family wherein a healthy balance is truly imp, whether the family will have any say on all the topics you have so beautifully brought out and how much of it will be acceptable to let other family members/relatives have a say or decide on issues about topics in the married life of two... how does he /she handle conflicts when there are situations like "insecurity based actions" from any of family members? Does the person belive in having any Code of Honour for the family Etc..
And you very rightly mentioned about the losses, mental/physical/financial /kids....If things dont work out despite bilateral efforts... in that case are the two people liberal enough to consider doing a Prenuptial agreement as a last resort and safety valve as a Backup plan.... :))
After all, as rightly said by my one of my mentors -
Let Love & Marriage be a promise of conviction, and not simply a game of convenience!
Loving Light,
Meraki Pegasus
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